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Wow. As I began reading this I felt it in my soul. My breathing became heavier. My heart raced a bit faster. Written extremely well. I’m breathless.
If a writer falls in love with you, you can never die. That’s what they told you from the very start. If an author pines for you, you’ll be immortalized in their words. Your eloquence will be captured in their prose as they strum at the chords of your heart and kiss the innermost chambers of your naked soul. So let me take off your clothes and take you in my arms.
Let me enfold you. Let me take your heart in my hands and feel it beat my name. Let me be the air that fills your aching lungs and swells within your chest. I’ll breathe life into your soul and be the man who basks in a beautyfar greater than his own. Throw your bones against mine and feel the solidarity of my embrace. Let my kiss your skin, stroke your hair and settle your racing mind.
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Choose LOVE over HATE.
We all have a natural inclination to hate those we see as our enemies. We hate those who hate us. We hate those who hurt us. We hate those who threaten us.
The righteous indignation of anger leads to burning hate. At the time it feels so justified. We see ourselves as the ones who are right. Everyone else is wrong. Simple as that. Choosing hate is easy. Loves is absolutely most difficult.
When we’ve been hurt; hate is a natural default reaction for all of us; me included. It feels so good and so right in moments to burn with rage against certain people; even if we claim principles that teach love.
Love isn’t a default reaction. Instead; it is a difficult choice; especially at first. But as you continually choose to walk in love. Your heart changes. Your heart softens and gets bigger. It reminds me of the story of The Grinch. The more he opened his heart to love the bigger his heart grew. Eventually love will seem like the only right choice. Your choice to walk in love will be tested again and again but will become easier. There is never a good justification to hate or to spread your hate to others.
1 John 4:19 We love each other because he loved us first. 20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t
love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?
1 John 2:8 Yet I am writing you a new command; its truth is seen in him and in you, because the darkness is passing and the true light is already shining. 9 Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother or sister is still in the darkness. 10 Anyone who loves their brother and sister lives in the light, and there is nothing in them to make them stumble. 11 But anyone who hates a brother or sister is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness. They do not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded them.
Hate hurts the person who is full of hatred. Even if you don’t call it hate. Even if you dress it up as righteous; it still hurts you more than anyone and it hurts the loved ones closest to you. It warps your ability to think clearly or to feel. You see others as sub humans who don’t quite deserve what you and yours deserves. Hate hardens your heart. Even if you feel softenness toward your own kind; you heart is hardened from rage that makes it hard for you to be reasonable and rational. You see everything through the lens of your rage and hate. You will try and justify things that are unjustifiable. You take on “they deserve what they get” mentality.
Those who follow Jesus cant follow him and be raging with hate towards people. He wasn’t vague about it at the Sermon on the Mount. He said to “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Hating others not only damages you. It also damages the ones closest to you.
Today; join me in making a concious effort to walk in love over Hate. Search your heart and let go of the anger and rage before it destroys you and the ones closest to you. If you need to separate yourself from certain people or influences; do it. Whatever triggers rage and hate in you; ITS NOT GOOD FOR YOU. Maybe you will see the world different without those influences in your life
Join me in making the choice to Love. Love always WINS! Love is what makes life worth living. I choose love over hate, because the Author of the story isn’t finished.
Perspective is a mighty powerful word! We can look at the most common things; the most usual things; and find beauty where we least expect it.
How many of us believe that true love can occur the moment a man and a women lay eyes on each other. “Love at first sight” is an emotional impossibility because you cannot love someone you dont even know. You have simply been drawn to the package in which they live. I once perceived myself falling in love at first sight but upon some time alone and self reflection i realized my PERSPECTIVE was way off.
A lifelong emotional attachment is much more than a romantic feeling. Its more than a sexual attraction or the thrill of the chase or to get married. Ive learned that these feelings usually indicate infactuation and tend to be temporary and rather selfish in nature. A person may say “This is so wonderful; it must be love”! Notice that those who say this arent talking about the other person but themselves. Theyre excited about their own gratification. Such people havent fallen in love with someone else but fallen in love with LOVE.
Genuine love is not something one “falls” into, as though we are tumbling into a ditch. We cant love an unknown object, regardless of how beautiful or handsome it is. Only when a person begins to develop a deep appreciation and admiration for another; and intense awareness of his or her needs, strengths, and character, has one begun to experienced true love. From there, it should grow for a lifetime.
1 John 4:7
Love is of God
“You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed.”
If any of you know me personally or follow me on facebook you know my passion for politics. You also know in the last few weeks i have listened to so much media that i lost my mind for a minute an allowed fear to overwhelm me. I’ll be the first to admit we are living in scary times for our country. Honestly; i never thought i would see what is happening in our country; happening. The spiritual bailouts, ecological turmoil, and worldwide persecution. I know Jesus told us things will only get worse…but i just never imagined i would see the day.
The Message (MSG)
4-8 Jesus said, “Watch out for doomsday deceivers. Many leaders are going to show up with forged identities, claiming, ‘I am Christ, the Messiah.’ They will deceive a lot of people. When reports come in of wars and rumored wars, keep your head and don’t panic. This is routine history; this is no sign of the end. Nation will fight nation and ruler fight ruler, over and over. Famines and earthquakes will occur in various places. This is nothing compared to what is coming.
9-10 “They are going to throw you to the wolves and kill you, everyone hating you because you carry my name. And then, going from bad to worse, it will be dog-eat-dog, everyone at each other’s throat, everyone hating each other.
11-12 “In the confusion, lying preachers will come forward and deceive a lot of people. For many others, the overwhelming spread of evil will do them in—nothing left of their love but a mound of ashes.
13-14 “Staying with it—that’s what God requires. Stay with it to the end. You won’t be sorry, and you’ll be saved. All during this time, the good news—the Message of the kingdom—will be preached all over the world, a witness staked out in every country. And then the end will come.
So things are going to get bad, really bad, before they get better. And when conditions worsen, Jesus said to do not get alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come. He said Don’t freak out when bad stuff happens.
He also said Don’t be mislead. Don’t be deceived. For many will come in my name, claimimg, I am the christ and will deceive many. There is a twofold appearance of MANY in this verse. Many deceived and many deceivers. Churches are a petri dishes for self serving egomaniacs who masquerade as ministers of God. God warns us to be careful of the spiritual gurus claiming a special status, a superior spirituality. They boast of insider information and adorn their teachings with “God told me”…Some even claim they are Christ. Don’t be mislead, Jesus warns. Don’t be wooed by their slick appearances, silver tongued oratory, or performances. Matthew 24:24
New International Version (NIV)
24 For false messiahs and false prophets will appear and perform great signs and wonders to deceive, if possible, even the elect. Multitudes and miracles. Large audiences and spectacular deeds. Throngs of people. Displays of power. When you see them, be careful. High volumes doesn’t equate with sound faith. Dont be impressed with numbers of tricks. Satan can counterfeit both. Filter all messages and messengers through this verse. 1 John 2:22-23
New King James Version (NKJV)
22 Who is a liar but he who denies that Jesus is the Christ? He is antichrist who denies the Father and the Son. 23 Whoever denies the Son does not have the Father either; he who acknowledges the Son has the Father also.
False prophets always minimize the role of Christ and maximize the role of humanity. Stick to one question. Is this person direceting listeners to Jesus? If the answer is yes, be grateful and pray for them. If the answer is no; get out while you can!
Along with heresy we can expect calamity. You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen but the end is still to come. Nation will rise against nation, kingdom against kingdom. There will be famine and earthquakes in various places. All these are the beginnings of birth pains. Matthew 28:6-8 niv
Christians will suffer the most. Matthew 24:9-12
New International Version (NIV)
9 “Then you will be handed over to be persecuted and put to death, and you will be hated by all nations because of me. 10 At that time many will turn away from the faith and will betray and hate each other, 11 and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. 12 Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold.
America, proud as she is of religious freedom, suffers of increased anger toward Christians. Professors publicly mock bible believing students. Talk show host denigrate people of faith. We can expect the persecution to increase. When it does, fragile convictions will collapse.( The love of many will grow cold.) Spiritual stowaways will jump ship. The halfhearted will become cold hearted. A great many church attenders will be disclosed as faith pretenders. They will not only leave the faith; they will make the lives of the faithful miserable.
Don’t freak out at the heresy, calamity, and apostasy. Don’t give in or give up, for you will soon witness the victory.
New International Version (NIV)
13 but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. 14 And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in the whole world as a testimony to all nations, and then the end will come.
Matthew 24:6 says these things must come to pass. Must is a welcomed word that affirms that all events, even the most violent, are under a divine plan. Every trial and trouble has a place in God’s scheme. “The reason why we ought not be terrified is not because wars are not terrifying. Quite the contrary. It is because above all chaos reigns a divine plan.” All things, big and small, flow out of the purpose of God and serve his good will. When the world appears out of control; it isn’t. When warmongers appear to be in charge, they aren’t. When ecological catastrophes dominate the day, don’t let them dominate you. God is in control. We can trust him. “Everything will work out in the end. If it’s not working out; it’s not the end.”
Have you ever been in a situation where you were rubbed the wrong way? Maybe someone offended you? Someone was mean to your children and you didn’t know how to handle the situation the correct way? You feel like if you don’t make a stand you will burst at the seams! We have our character that is in part formed by what we hate, because we move to be different from whatever that is. Our hatred of that serves as our protective force. When someone comes against that it causes us to want to protect what we value. I personally hate it when people i love are personally threatened. So i move to protect them. My protective emotions kick in. I immediately react by moving against the threat, destroy the threat, then protect what is good. (Not sure if that even make sense to you.)
What we hate defines who we are. But how do we hate well? Wise people hate in a certain way and then respond in a certain way. They let the hate solve a problem instead of creating new problems. I want to learn this! Normally i will storm into the situation enraged and angry about the issue. I may even be hurtful instead of tackling the issue in a constructive fashion and solving the issue in the process. A wise person moves against the problem, and shows love and respect to the person in the process. I heard a wise person once say,”Go hard on the issue and soft on the person.” This is profound. I find myself going hard on the person i have the issue with and this is very unwise. I always let my emotions go ahead of me. I know negative emotions are of little value when it comes to solving problems. My hate has passionate roots and deep connections to the heart and spurs all kinds of feelings. The way i see life is not how another may see it and what frustrates me the most is being misunderstood. Being this way has caused me a lot of pain and heartache in my past. I do know that we get what we tolerate. If we allow mistreatment, you will be mistreated. Wise people do not tolerate dysfunction. They hate it wisely. They don’t destroy the person or relationship in the process, but they do not tolerate the infection. So choosing what we hate is very serious!! What will i tolerate? What will we work with and what will we absolutely under no circumstances allow? What we do not hate well is going to find it’s way in our life? ‘Im glad i had this talk with myself….Enjoy
The Message (MSG)
Seven Things God Hates
16-19 Here are six things God hates,
and one more that he loathes with a passion:
eyes that are arrogant,
a tongue that lies,
hands that murder the innocent,
a heart that hatches evil plots,
feet that race down a wicked track,
a mouth that lies under oath,
a troublemaker in the family.
It has been awhile since i have updated pictures on my site. So today i wanted to re-introduce you to the loves of my life. We are a very close knit group. My kids mean the world to me. My daughter Brittany is graduating from high school in may. From there she will start college in the fall to get her degree in Psychology. My son Micah is ten years old and the master of xbox. He is the most kind little boy with a huge heart. His smile lights up the darkest room. He keeps me running. My husband Eric loves his computer and UFC. Which makes us a perfect match because i love computers as well. UFC not so much. My sports love is football all the way. We all have a love for the beach and can never get enough. We hope to retire their one day. As for me; i have many passions. My daily passion is making people beautiful designing hair. I also love decorating my home. I love to read, garden, and blog. It is an outlet for me to get my feelings out in a healthy way and maybe help someone along the way. I want to say a special thank you to my followers. Also to the ones who leave such kind comments. It really means alot. We are all in the race of life together; it’s nice to have others to encourage and edify us along our journey. Blessings…..Emilie
Today i want to talk about speaking your heart to someone whether it be your spouse, child, friend, co-worker, parent. Have you ever felt like you just weren’t being heard. Every word is always taken out of context and no issue is ever resolved; you leave a conversation feeling more frustrated. There are some people who only hear what they want to hear. It is; however; extremely hard on the people who are trying to communicate with them. People who hear only what they want to hear usually miss the point, misinterpret the meaning and are not above making up things that make them feel more comfortable with what is said and who is saying it. When challenged about the interpretation of what is said, people who hear what they want to hear will get mad or upset about the things they heard that were never spoken.
People who hear what they want to hear can feel accused, degraded, or criticized regardless of what is said. They are extremely defensive, which makes it difficult to talk to them, even about important things. People who hear what they want to hear know how things should be said, but even when they are, they can’t seem to hear them.
People who hear what they want to hear are mind readers and body language experts! They supposedly can read meanings into speakers tones of voice and never hear the true heart of the matter.
In the past; you may have been a person who hears what you want to hear rather than what is truly being said. Just for today, practice not adding meanings or diminishing the value of what is said to you based on who is saying it. Hear the truth of what is being said and try not to give the truth your own meaning. I hope this will help someone in a relationship. Its very sad when relationships suffer over miscomunication and misunderstandings. We are too blessed to be stressed!
Yesterday i attended someone very dear to the families funeral. My son’s granddaddy. He was a very faithful, kind, and very patient man. He was always their to help his family. Even in the choices of life; he sat back and let them learn from those choices. If you wanted a lesson in patience; he would give it to you. I am the most impatient person i know. If something is broken; i want it fixed NOW! If you made a mistake; fix it STAT! I’m always on the move. But then i find myself in the slowest bank line on a friday at noon! It’s here that i come face to face with the realization that i cannot make my life move faster than it is moving. No matter how urgent our situation may be, things are going to happen when they happen, not a minute sooner. It does not matter how many times you roll your eyes, suck your teeth, huff or puff, you cannot make your life happen any faster than it is happening right now. In a long line, in a small bank, when it seems like people aren’t moving as fast as they could, remember that the process is in motion and that things will get done when they get done.
Patience is a choice. The older i get; the more patient i am becoming! Praise God! It is a conscious choice to be reliant on the unceasing movement of life. Now to teach my kids this lesson. Patience is an ability. It is the mental ability to remember that once the wheels start turning and the movement has begun, the destination will be reached eventually. Patience is a skill. It’s an emotional skill of knowing that what you expect, intend and desire will happen exactly when it needs to happen. It is a challenge to practice patience. For me; it will be a long life lesson.
As i sat listening to the preacher at the funeral yesterday talking about all granddaddies wonderful qualities and how he will always be remembered. Patience being the most outstanding. I began a self reflection. What would people think of me? What would be my legacy? Something to think about.
In the past; we may have experienced bouts of impatience. Just for today, be devoted to mastering the art and science of being patient. Let’s be patient with ourselves, be patient with others, be patient with life. Patience always pays off in the end.