Is everyone suppose to be married? Have you heard or ever asked yourself this question. Personally, i believe that most of us should have a partner. We are all born with a desire for human contact, and as we enter our adolescent years our bodies produce hormones and ignite a desire to partner with the opposite sex. Genesis 2:18…”It is not good for the man to be alone.” and he created woman. God calls some to singleness to focus on other endeavors, but if you experience a deep, unchanging longing for a mate, one is probably waiting for you.
With that said, let’s be honest: waiting for Mr. right can be torture! Maybe you felt like marrying 5 times, even ten years ago, but no eligible men appeared for you. Perhaps like me you suffered through a few unhappy marriages and decided this time to wait!!! Whatever the situation, know that God knows that this is a storm. He has provided promises that you can stand on while you wait.
The Message (MSG)
7-11″Don’t bargain with God. Be direct. Ask for what you need. This isn’t a cat-and-mouse, hide-and-seek game we’re in. If your child asks for bread, do you trick him with sawdust? If he asks for fish, do you scare him with a live snake on his plate? As bad as you are, you wouldn’t think of such a thing. You’re at least decent to your own children. So don’t you think the God who conceived you in love will be even better?
God wants to satisfy his childrens desires. He wants to provide the best mate for you, he has no intention of depriving you of any good thing. (psalm) 84:11
New International Version (NIV)
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
I love this verse and have stood on this promise through my married times and my single times. Those times i questioned God about my marriage, not knowing why my prayers seemed to go unanswered and circumstances never changed, i always declared this over my life. Going through a devastating divorce and becoming a single parent is a time where you are seriously questioning God. I felt like he turned his back on me and i was alone. For five years i labored alone, you who are single parents reading this know what i mean, it is a heavy burden to bear. But i knew that finding a good man was way beyond my human capabilities. Even when we don’t understand what God is doing, stand on the rock solid words from your good father himself. He knows things we don’t and he wants good for us. God does have a plan, even when we can’t see one! When i was ready, i decided to stand on God’s loving promises. He really does have a plan for us. He can and will introduce your husband to you and it will be when you least expect it and when you were’nt even looking! God’s word says we are unique, that his eyes have been upon us from the very start. That blows me away! That is amazing! Wow!
The Message (MSG)
13-16 Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
before I’d even lived one day.
From real life experience, i can tell you that he has designed a plan just right for you. As a perfect example, i’d like to share with you how he brought my husband, Eric and i together. Being single, im sure you know, people love trying to set you up. I went out on so many blind dates. Just the thought of another one made me sick. I really had gotten to the point to where i was finished with dating. You go through the whole go out on one date, then there isnt a connection for one or the other, then there is the heartbreaking “im sorry but no thank you, not again” call. Its horrible! You who are single can relate. So one of my friends invited a few of us over to watch football and to eat. Im always down for a great football game. I wasnt going to be set up or to meet anyone. Just for the game. Auburn versus Alabama with an Auburn victory, by the way! Eric was at the get together. I introduced myself to everyone. I didnt really talk to him as i pay attention to the game. But before leaving he began talking to me. We went out on a date two days later and were inseparable every since. Within a month i knew i would marry him. That i knew was a God thing because those who know me; know i ran from the L word and the M word. Friend, you may be at one of your darkest hours today. So was i, as i struggled through divorce, heartbreak, and single parenting. Some days i could hardly see, let alone pray, through the pain. Right now you may carry the weight of unshed tears because your future looks dim and you feel completely hopeless but believe me; there is glory over the hill!! During the painful final years of my marriage, God was already at work. I see that now. Every single piece of the puzzle fits into a big picture. Just know not one single moment of your life has been lost. What i went through was significant in guiding me on a deeper walk with the lord, as well as providing intergal understanding of God’s plan for my life. It increased my prayer life. It revealed things in me i didn’t like. I also learned that when God put’s two people together, their union is ordained. No one should have to plan, struggle, fret, or manipulate. This doesnt mean the relationship will flow without ripples of conflict. Love usually blossoms over time; every couple has disagreements, finds irritating personality traits in each other, and must learn to balance conflicting time schedules. A plan far more wonderful than you and i could ever dream up is in progress in the Lord’s hands. Let my story encourage you.
Hold on, the good is coming! How do i know? Because he had a plan for my life, one far more marvelous than i could ever have devised on my own.